Marriage can sometimes seem like a war, and many times the battle takes place at Compromise Creek, where really, compromise is the only solution.
A little give and a little take. And in the case of this post, a little puppy.
It got to the point where I would completely tune out whenever Sarabeth showed me puppy pictures from the Internet. I felt like a jerk, really – a cold-hearted monster. I mean, who doesn’t like puppies?
In my defense, I didn’t see the point in looking at a bunch of pictures of puppies if I can’t hold them and play with them. It’s like watching the Food Network – how can I enjoy it if I have no idea what all these great-looking foods even taste like?
For a while I was against the idea of getting another dog. I thought one should be sufficient. I love our dachshund Pixie, so why would we need another one?
So I finally broke one day and said, “Here’s the deal. If you find a dog you want, show her to me and we’ll discuss it. Until then, stop showing me dog pictures.”
And the deal was made. Of course, I was thinking she wasn’t going to find one. But, of course, I was wrong. So very wrong.
She found a blue and tan dachshund puppy and there was a list of people waiting to have her. I thought, I’ll look like the compromising good guy and agree to it. Chances are, someone else will get her. Mwah, ha, ha!
Two weeks later I mailed in our deposit, and the next week we were heading out into the country to pick up this little squirt I planned on having no attachment with.
I didn’t really connect with her on the drive back, as I was focussing on getting home before dark, but Sarabeth certainly made a connection with Prim in her lap for two hours.
My connection with Prim came when I took her out to the grass for the first time and she peed – outside. And then she followed me, bouncing and tripping and stumbling over the grass.
Then I was hooked. And I’m sure I’ll never be the same.
I’m pretty bad at this, but it’s kind of like this with God. We can’t make a connection with Him just by reading the Bible or going to church. We also need to pray, and take the effort to communicate with Him.
I think the greatest compromise of all time was when He said, “I’ll die for you, if you’ll just talk to Me. Connect with Me.”
Also, if your spouse ever wants a dog, don’t say no. Just give a little, and a little puppy will give a lot back …hopefully in the grass.